Here I Sit...
Today I am having a hard time motivating myself to do the ZILLIONS of things that need to be done around my house. It seems like every chore is halfway finished. My sink and toilet are scrubbed, yet the tub and floor are still dirty. The dishes are in the dishwasher but there are still crumbs scattered around every visible surface in my kitchen. Some the laundry is washed but there are random piles and baskets of clean clothes everywhere I am not motivated enough to finish folding and putting away. I have read to my kids, played with them, helped them get dressed, fed them, and even gone on a walk, but now I have them sitting in front of the t.v. watching a show so I can have a few minutes peace (will I ever be able to do that without feeling endless guilt? I don't know) I am feeling the pressure of not making ends meet housework wise. There are days when I throw my hands up in frustration because I can't seem to keep up with ANYTHING. I feel like if I truly keep my house tidy, my kids suffer from lack of attention. Or, if I pay tons of attention to my kids, everything else falls behind and makes me cranky. I have tried making a housework schedule, but that only seems to add stress on days when I don't get to my assigned chores. For those of you busy mothers out there do you have any suggestions? I can't seem to keep it together lately.
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Have a better day tomorrow! And soon enough, you'll be enjoying yourself at an awesome girl's night!!!
And who says the bathrm has to be cleaned all at once. I hate cleaning the bathrm even more than I dislike putting away laundry. I can only do one thing a day or it never gets done. That way the bathrm looks reasonable (most of the time). And I don't get overwhelmed by it.
All in all though, the fact of the matter is that we'll never be perfect at keeping the house done. We have kids, and if we were, then I'd think we were doing something wrong. It's all about priorities. You chose the one or two things that you have to get done and spend the rest of the time growing and nurturing those other important things. Good luck! I know we all struggle with this same problem as mothers. We're our own worst enemy.
You are such a good Mom and you always seem so on top of things. It seems like I look at everyone else and they make it look so easy.
I agree with Jenny Melyssa, you are a wonderful mother & wife.
ALL of you young mothers - having passed this stage in my life (& feeling exactly like you earlier)
"don't sweat the small stuff", give yourselves credit for what you DO DO. Pick your battles, don't EVER feel guilty!!!! You all do too much to waste energy on feeling "guilty". Look at your accomplishments & if you take a day or two off.....so be it!!! You're all WONDERFUL!!
I've learned that "shoulds" (directed to ourselves or others)cause most of life's frustrations and sorrows. When you eliminate the "shoulds" with "hopes" you will feel more peace.
"I hoped that I could have accomplished that today but I acknowledge I am not always able to be in total control of my day when I am wearing so many hats (and other people's agency is involved)". NO MORE SHOULDS!